tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5808767913621890148.post2296215658941015382..comments2023-10-17T03:55:53.511-05:00Comments on Diary of a Mad Overeater 2.0: Dodging a BulletCharlie O. Edinburghhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14743399304828375276noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5808767913621890148.post-21927096454404514242009-03-13T09:40:00.000-05:002009-03-13T09:40:00.000-05:00Thanks, LB... I appreciate your very thoughtful an...Thanks, LB... I appreciate your very thoughtful and thought-provoking words. I am thinking and praying about giving up SOME of the weigh-ins. But you're right, I need to at least take a good, hard look at where I'm finding my self-worth.<BR/><BR/>For Today, I'll commit to a once-per-day weigh-in. I know that still sounds crazy and compulsive, and it is. But it's better than the 5-7 times a day I currently do it... It's right there in the bathroom and I work at home...Charlie O. Edinburghhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14743399304828375276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5808767913621890148.post-49329904997509555152009-03-12T12:24:00.000-05:002009-03-12T12:24:00.000-05:00I've had sponsees wrap their scales up like a birt...I've had sponsees wrap their scales up like a birthday present and give them to me for safe keeping. To me, the number on the scale is the outcome, which is not only none of my business, but also not within my control, and the more I focus on those things that I can't control (somehow thinking that I can), the more crazy I become. I've heard it stated as "outcomes are God's job", but as an agnostic, I had trouble with this, so to me it just because "outcomes are not mine to determine" or "I have no control over the outcome." I can do the work, but I'm just going to have to accept that I simply cannot force any particular outcome.<BR/><BR/>Another way I think about it is that I have a finite amount of "effort" inside of me, and where I allocate that effort is totally up to me - I can allocate it towards things that I actually have no power over (eg. my weight), or I can allocate it towards something that actually makes a difference (eg. stepwork, meetings, service, sponsorship, etc.). If I put my efforts towards things that I cannot change, then nothing comes of it except I'm all pissed off because I put all this effort towards something and it didn't go my way. If I put my efforts towards things that I can change, then what do you know - good or bad, change takes place.<BR/><BR/>And, one final thought - I've been told that for every action we take, it is with some sort of payoff - ask, what am I getting out of this? For example, if you're checking your weight several times a day, what is it doing FOR you? A sense of accomplishment? I've told sponsees before that if your mood or feelings (including feelings about yourself) are dependent on what that number on the scale says, then you do NOT need to be stepping on that scale. If how you feel before you get on the scale is different than how you feel after you get on the scale, then you do NOT need to be stepping on that scale. A scale is meant to be informative, not mood/feeling-determinative. Ultimately, the question is, does knowing the number change what actions/decisions you may or may not take/make? It shouldn't!<BR/><BR/>Don't know if any of that helps, but those are the thoughts I had. :)<BR/><BR/>Oh, and seriously ... GET OUT OF PANERA!!!!! What are you thinking??? There's a reason playgrounds are built in the middle of freeways! :)legally_barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02110890868336138742noreply@blogger.com