tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5808767913621890148.post5613733999324733172..comments2023-10-17T03:55:53.511-05:00Comments on Diary of a Mad Overeater 2.0: Hello?Charlie O. Edinburghhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14743399304828375276noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5808767913621890148.post-42709239997710332952010-08-24T14:00:42.773-05:002010-08-24T14:00:42.773-05:00Thanks for your kind words, everyone. I got throug...Thanks for your kind words, everyone. I got through the day. Actually ended up talking with 4 people! So... it always works out. Also, my sponsor says she is reasonable, and if I somehow don't make all three calls, I won't necessarily lose my abstinence. Most people in HOW have to start their day count and their reading/writing assignments all over, drop their sponsees for 30 days... it's very intense. But my sponsor says if I can honestly - with integrity before my HP - say that I gave it my best effort and could not get my 3 calls in, then we'll just be honest and talk about it. I'm grateful for that reasonable approach.<br /><br />I talked to another HOW member yesterday who told me a story of calling over 100 numbers one day, ruining a vacation day, because no one would pick up. It was a holiday. What a drag. That is the point at which structure becomes LAW rather than GRACE. In my faith tradition, the gospels record Jesus saying to the Pharisees at one point... "The Sabbath was made for people, not the other way around." (I think they were criticizing him for healing someone on the Sabbath.) In the same way, we are not here to serve HOW's laws. The HOW structure is here to serve us.<br /><br />At the same time, I only would say something like that after talking it over with my sponsor and other program friends. My own sick mind makes enough justifications. I need a law to follow. I can't just plead "grace" when I don't like the laws. It's a fine line.<br /><br />Wow. I just got online to say thanks for the support, and look at all that came out! Funny how that happens.<br /><br />And thank you, G. I'm glad you're not scared of me. :)Charlie O. Edinburghhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14743399304828375276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5808767913621890148.post-23371372371411647842010-08-24T11:09:14.401-05:002010-08-24T11:09:14.401-05:00You know, I often have a lot of trouble calling pe...You know, I often have a lot of trouble calling people back. It's a source of guilt and shame for me, and I'm not really sure why it is. Part of it is just the procrastination thing... I think "I'll do it later" until later never comes. Part of it is sometimes the anxiety of being "on the spot" on the phone with someone, especially someone who needs *me* rather than the other way around- it can be very difficult to internalize the idea that every program call we engage in is equally helpful to both parties on principle. I feel like I need to pull out chaplaincy skills that I haven't begun learning yet (you don't get to do chaplaincy in 1st year at my school) and OMG what if I say the wrong thing?<br /><br />It is very frustrating when you make the effort to reach out and the person on the other end, for whatever reason, won't reach back... but we're ll sick and suffering in this program, we're all working at our own pace, as best we know how. Some of us struggle more with certain character defects than others. Your frustration is absolutely valid. But I would suggest that you also try to pray for the people toward whom you feel the frustration, that they should have help in overcoming whatever hangups are contributing to their inability or unwillingness to reach out in turn.<br /><br />And no Charlie, you are not scary :)G. Rabanonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09470120155658951590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5808767913621890148.post-20942694986691284972010-08-23T22:35:20.441-05:002010-08-23T22:35:20.441-05:00That is frustrating. I know how scary reaching out...That is frustrating. I know how scary reaching out can be. <br />Maybe those people are just afraid to call back. Sometimes I am afraid to talk if I feel bad. I just think "why would this stranger want to get/receive a call from a crying, miserable stranger?"The Binge Diaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11655901276980551747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5808767913621890148.post-47674126913749830032010-08-23T22:14:31.338-05:002010-08-23T22:14:31.338-05:00Well i can't imagine the frustration. Keep at ...Well i can't imagine the frustration. Keep at it and make sure u always return calls. Its upsetting that these people are going through the same thing, so know how hard it is. Wishing u the bestMs. Chunky Chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00040326465746097157noreply@blogger.com